Why is his ex so vindictive : Beautiful woman.
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I have a family member who has been going thru a divorce for over 2 years. Throughout his marriage none of the family on our side ever thought nice things of her. Even from the begining she was vindictive, mean, and very controlling and it just got worse over the 20 some years they were married. He was told he was ugly, never good enough, and many other nasty things. She always accused him of cheating and he wasn't but in all of our opinion if you constantly accuse it you're doing it yourself! She would always put him down in front of their children and even as grown adults she still did the same. He never bad mouthed her once in front of their children. He wasn't allowed to see our family and she told the children that the only family they had was her side not his. He worked alot of hours to make sure her and his children had everything they wanted. His children never had to pay a dime for anything they wanted and neither did she. She would slap and hit him if she didn't get her way, name call him and everything in the book you can think of to get her way. He had tried to leave him 4 or 5 times in the past but everytime he tried she would throw things at him , tell the kids look at your dad he's leaving us and make them cry. So he ended up staying. Just a few years he ended up finding a beautiful, intelligent, younger woman who he fell madly in love with. He's 48 and shes 27, now to me age is nothing but a number when it comes to love and I try not to judge because nobody's perfect and our family couldn't have been happier that he found someone that was allllot better for him. I mean yes she was younger but seeing him as happy as he was ( and he was never happy or had a smile on his face with her) made us realize that there is love out there. They have been together ever since and he's the happiest he could be in life. Yet as soon as he left, his ex started making up rumors to his grown children about him. Saying your dad doesn't love you anymore, he was tired of you guys also, and told them that someone called annonomous stating that he had a girlfriend. Now why do women have to get the children involved when it's not between him and kids but him and her. Now the kids wont give him the time of day whatsoever and are upset because supposedly daddy doesn't love them and is sick of them. She has brainwashed the kids all their life and you would think being 21 and over they would have a mind of their own to know that's not true. He was an outstanding father and was with them every minute he had. It's sad to see this happen to him. I understand the thing of them dispising the younger woman but she does not have to be part of their life HE DOES. The 21 year old was very disrespectful when talking to her dad when she did a few years ago. Telling him **** you and all kids of other nonsense. To me no matter how mad you are at your parents you should never ever be that disrespectful to them. We all know it was his ex wife putting his children up to saying the nasty things they said. I don't understand being adults and taking sides at the ages they are. I mean you have to have your own mind and you knew your parents didn't get along whatsoever for years, so why is it a surprise that they are not together. Yes I understand the younger woman thing and them being pissed off that dad found someone else and mom hasn't but shouldn't you be happy that your father's happy??? The ex wife thrives off of things she hears about him and her. She will send things in the mail like 15 year old love cards and mother's day cards that he had given her. She has things sent to their house in her name, and has done a few more things. Luckily him and her blow it off and don't let it bother them. She's trying to screw him in court big time and finally they are getting a hearing sometime soon. She wants him to pay for everything and the kids. He wants to help his kids out I see that but his kids are adults they need to pay for their own stuff not make daddy pay for everything because we are mad at him. The ex does not want to take responsibility for anything but would much rather screw him. I understand she's pissed off and hurt, yes I completely understand BUT move on with your life and find someone new. It's been over 2 years now move the hell on with your life. You have to love your kids more than you hate your ex, is a saying that I heard and I truly believe that.
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My dear friend,I am surprised that he has put up with all these nonsense.Who was wife and who was husband? I am happy to note that hearing is soon.You see that anyhow he gets divorce and unites with his 27 years old lovebird. You are right, age is mere numbers.Court will take everything in its view and will decide what to pay,how to pay and for whom to pay.So never worry about it.Your goal should be to see that he gets divorce.Best luck.
This is none of your business.The ex wife figured he would stick around forever and is angry he left her and for another woman and is angry and lashing out.The kids were raised with a woman like this so it is no surprise how they are behaving.It is what it is.Unless the kids are in school full time he is not obligated to pay any support since they are adults so she can take him to court and try and screw him that way but she won't get anywhere.
The reason the kids act like that is because they have been manipulated their whole lives to think he is bad. He should find a way to tell them he loves them…even if it is writing letters. He should never stop trying.
Are you married ? Did you live with the ex wife and him when they were still married if not then your not getting the whole truth but one side.Sense you never lived with them you really have no idea how he treated her behind closed door. Do you understand if he wasn't happy that was on him and because he wasn't happy he made her miserable. Of course his kids are mad at him he left their mom for a younger woman, he cheated on his wife while he was still married.
Two years isn't that long to get over someone especially if you've been married for 20 years.
His wife really never stood a chance because you and everyone else didn't like her from the start.
Of course he is happy what 48 year old man wouldn't be happy with a 27 year old sharing his bed.
You can make him out to be a saint all you want but what it comes down to is he left his wife for a younger woman. She has ever right to be angry at him after all he made a promise to be faithful and forsake all others. That woman he is with now, the one you guys like so much she won't stay with him to much longer because he sounds like a weak man who lets women boss him around.
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